International Dating Guide: How to Date a Chinese Woman

If you are a Westerner, dreaming of dating a Chinese girl, you should brace for the upcoming challenges that you will have to take on.

Being in a relationship with a Western woman is completely opposite to dating an Asian lady.

So before you take the risk of changing your life (because dating a Chinese beauty will demand you to do so), learn about what you have to do to be happy in a relationship with such a lady.

1. Learn about her culture in advance

When you start dating a Chinese girl, make sure not to ask her standard questions about Chinese traditions that you can easily learn online. Moreover, if you show her that you already did some research, she will be impressed.

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Also, be tolerant and patient with her culture. A Chinese woman that you will meet on a dating site might come from a rural area where people believe in traditional medicine, so will she. You will have to accept her beliefs.

You will win her heart if you start learning Mandarin – it is essential for a Chinese beauty to understand that her second half is indeed looking for a serious relationship.

2. Respect her family

Showing respect towards girl’s parents in China is crucial. Make sure not to say anything offensive and give them enough of attention.

However, whatever happens, always stay on the side of a girl, not her parents, as you are her main partner, not theirs.

3. Make Chinese girl feel stable

You don’t have to own a villa or a sports car, but you will have to prove to your Chinese date that you will be able to provide for your potential family.

No, this does not mean that Chinese girls are gold-diggers, but that they are very secure about family’s stability.

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4. Try to be a “bad-humble” guy

In Chinese culture, the person is considered to be intelligent when he is calm and silent. So instead of being talkative, extrovert and impressive, remain humble. This will give you additional points when you meet Chinese girl’s parents.

By the way, her parents will expect you to be a right polite guy. But to create a spark in your girlfriend’s eyes and butterflies in her stomach, sometimes try to crash that expectation, being a bad guy.

Nevertheless, being bad does not mean you can make your Chinese girlfriend feel jealous. Never do that as you will just freak her out and spoil the whole thing.

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5. Do not hurry things up

Chinese ladies like it when men woo them for long. So do not jump from one stage of dating to another just on one evening. Take your time.

Don’t forget about the follow-up after the first day. Also, keep in mind that not all Chinese women feel comfortable going out on classical dates to restaurants or cinemas. That might create excessive tension for them.

Hence, simply invite her for a cup of tea from time to time, or take your girl for a walk in the park. Comfort her.

Dave Greenberg

Dave Greenberg is a senior associate editor and writer at Yourbride specializing in international marriages and mail-order bride services. Before joining Yourbride, Dave Greenberg has been a professional dating coach who stands behind 20+ successful marriages. Being an experienced couple counselor, Dave continues helping singles find their matches all over the world.

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